tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33409496.post3434265402783003789..comments2008-08-04T16:07:45.247+09:00Comments on My So-Called Japanese Life: Not Taking "No" For an AnswerUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33409496.post-42355357420507975922007-04-26T08:40:00.000+09:002007-04-26T08:40:00.000+09:00Hi, Androo, and thanks very much for your kind wor...Hi, Androo, and thanks very much for your kind words and telling your story. It really rang true to me and gave me an ironic smile at how predictable the Japanese can be in such situations.<BR/><BR/>It reminded me of a situation early on in my employment where I nearly was fired for refusing what I thought was a request to work on my day off. At the time, I just thought I was being asked if I'd be willing to do it. In retrospect, I realize it wasn't a request so much as a demand phrased as one.<BR/><BR/>As was the case with you, I was immensenly frustrated by the way in which things were done. One of these days, I'll have to write a specific post about the details of that incident so I remember it for posterity.Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419851636570519145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33409496.post-76277916139152800142007-04-26T07:55:00.000+09:002007-04-26T07:55:00.000+09:00Even though it's an old post, I'm thoroughly enjoy...Even though it's an old post, I'm thoroughly enjoying browsing some of your past experiences. They remind me somewhat of my private English lessons, though I only had a single student once a week. <BR/><BR/>This story actually reminds me of being in school in Japan. Halfway through a 6 month program, our Japanese ability was re-evaluated and we were assigned to different level classes. I had always been one of intermediate students more serious about my language study, so I took it as a personal victory when I was assigned to jump a couple of levels over most of my initial classmates. The placement test took place near the beginning of spring break and classes would resume a month later. As with any sort of long break, it takes a while to get back into the groove. I struggled for about a week and a half in the new class, but knew if I tried harder I could succeed. The problem is that I wouldn't get a chance. An administrator in the program called me and a couple of my classmates into the office to discuss something with us, and the conversation was eerily similar many others.<BR/>(All in Japanese) "Would you like to move down a level? It's easier"<BR/><I>No thanks, we can handle it. We just have to take it more seriously.</I><BR/>"Well, it's probably better if you move down a level."<BR/><I>No, it's ok. We'll do better on the next test.</I><BR/>"I'm sure you can do it if you try harder, but moving down would be better"<BR/><I>Well, I'm sure it would be easier, but we'd like to stay in the current level.</I><BR/><BR/>At this point, one of my classmates began getting understandably frustrated and switched to English. We all followed suit, as communicating complex emotions usually requires more confidence in the language.<BR/><BR/>The next 30 minutes were spent basically rehashing that same conversation, with the only highlight being us slightly raising our voices. We missed our entire lunch period and were basically forced to drop a level and resented it for the rest of our time there. I think we would have been far more understanding and it would have taken less time if they had said "based on your initial test scores, you can't handle this level. We're moving you down one" instead of phrasing it like we had an option.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33409496.post-15143577914491466592007-02-03T09:11:00.000+09:002007-02-03T09:11:00.000+09:00P.S. My husband just reminded me that he had one o...P.S. My husband just reminded me that he had one of these types of inappropriate browbeating experiences himself quite some time ago. His best friend (a very, very close friend) died in a car accident and he said he couldn't work the next day and his school pressured him to work when he called in. So much for sensitivity. :-pSharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419851636570519145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33409496.post-8930662505297417092007-02-03T09:08:00.000+09:002007-02-03T09:08:00.000+09:00Wow, that's really outrageous. It seems that what ...Wow, that's really outrageous. It seems that what they wanted you to do was act as a human answering machine...say the same thing as the answering machine.<br /><br />You absolutely did the right thing. It must have been a really unpleasant situation for you to put up with!<br /><br />While it is pretty "out there" on the ridiculousness scale, it's not particularly surprising. The Japanese staff at language schools have been known to try to milk as much out of foreign staff as possible. I guess they don't realize teaching is hard enough.Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419851636570519145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33409496.post-42099241057518546152007-02-03T03:37:00.000+09:002007-02-03T03:37:00.000+09:00I had an experience with not taking no when I work...I had an experience with not taking no when I worked at my eikaiwa. I was what we called a split teacher, I worked in two schools...3 days in one, 2 in the other. To save money the company decided that they wouldn't have a manager in the school on the days that I worked there. They wanted me to answer the phones when I wasn't teaching. The manager and the Japanese Teacher spent an hour trying to browbeat me into agreeing to answer the telephones. It was a few years ago, but it went a bit like this...<br />"Helen, we want you to answer the telephone when it rings."<br />"No because I can't speak Japanese. And, isn't there an answering machine anyway?"<br />"We'll teach you what to say. "<br />"I won't understand what the person on the phone says."<br />"That's okay, just as long as you give them the message in Japanese." <br />"Huh?"<br />"We think it's a good idea if you answer the phone."<br />"Isn't there an answering machine for that?"<br />"Japanese people don't like answering machines and don't leave messages."<br />"Well, then they'll call back!"<br />"We want you to answer the phone when you're not in class."<br />"No, I'm not able to do that."<br /><br />Over and over it went, for more than an hour. I flatly refused. I still believe that I did the right thing. If I had been able to speak Japanese I might have been more willing, but I was a teacher. I had enough to do!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00476943539943172099noreply@blogger.com